Nothing's Perfect
From the when i first experienced "pick up" (yuck) I used to think this business were so good that everything went perfectly. From the reading some field reports where the guys effortlessly experienced the girls jeans without a single hiccup along the way, and thinking about how i needed to stop making little mistakes. Or have there been no hiccups? In reality there is always a lot of little mistakes made or roadblocks that are run into but the human mind is likely to glaze over the flaws, and exemplify the success.
From the how i used to (an occasionally still do) get thrown off by a girl who was not giving me a confident reaction or was putting up some resistance before sex. I thought "I've never heard of PUA X or Ymca having trouble" then thinking I was doing something wrong.
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Truth is, it's never a smooth ride the whole way. I never realized this unti I was talking to Sloth and Eastcoast about it and they laughed and said this also thing, it happens to everyone and it's really not just you. All you have to do is not BE REACTIVE. This doesn't mean stand there like a brain-dead zombie. Although it's an easy enough concept to think about (easier than authenticity or be natural) but it's tough to do something on and explain, so let me illustrate my point with some situations.
I'm at a house party and I've played the room unti I found a female that we think is DTF. We're vibing pretty well and it's really pretty flirty. I make a little ruse that she says is stupid and calls me premature or a similar name. I used to think that I was in trouble at this point but in reality it's fairly simple, I recently don't react. Rather than explaining myself to her, I look at her like she's just said the most retarded thing I've heard and then go back to smiling while I recently say something else to keep the flow of the conversation going. See the reason this works happens because I'm showing that in my reality, not only do i not know what negativity is, it's so far outside of my grasp that we don't know how to respond. This accompanied by not missing a step and staying positive throws most girls off to the point where they're knickers automatically drop
My parents are out for the evening and I have the house to myself so i have a girl over to "watch a movie". I start making out with her no issue and her shirt comes off with out a problem. After a couple of attempts she lets her bra come off. I'm massaging her crotch with my leg and stimulating her hard nipples but she's going to NOT let my hand go anywhere near her inner legs or jeans zipper and keeps telling me no. Instead of being logical or talking about it I recently cool off. I won't need to get in her jeans and I'm not needy. I go back to cuddling and watching the movie. I am coming in contact with sensitive areas on her neck, ear lobe and lower back while we are watching the movie again until I figure it's time to make some more moves. This time I'm able to slip my hand down her jeans to start fingering her. GAME OVER.
A quick disclaimer about this, there are a lot of girls (especially in high school) who will not have sex right away. Often you will need to escalate over a series of days, weeks or even months in some cases. This comes from social conditioning, naivety and purity and to be honest I know respect a female a lot more if she makes me wait. And although I can't tell you to do and not to do, don't just use a girl for knowing she's going to have buyers guilt or lead her on, it enables you to an asshole and a douche.
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